“Use your lantern. The light is your guide; your values, your insight, your wisdom.
It is you inner truth. Your authentic Self. Let it lead the way…”
It is you inner truth. Your authentic Self. Let it lead the way…”
Nain at Wayfarer
The Wayfarers Lantern – Insights, Ponderings & Wisdom
Welcome to the Wayfarer’s Lantern. I have created this page as a means of sharing my own insights, ponderings and creativity with you, as well as those insights, inspirations and wisdom I have gleaned from elsewhere. This page is here as an invitation and offering that may prove useful in facilitating your own reflective process, iterative reflexivity and pro-action as your walk your path of self-discovery and transformation. The Wayfarer’s Lantern offers quotes, art and creative representation, insights and wisdom, as well as poses questions and throws out challenges that you may choose to take and reflect upon, contemplate, process or use as inspiration and motivation in your own time and in your own way, as a means of continuing your personal understanding, learning and discovery……
Monthly Existential Pondering
“Thinking is easy, acting is difficult, and to put one’s thoughts into action is the most difficult thing in the world…”
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
How many times have you had a thought, an inspiring idea, a desire or dream that has fuelled a passion within you, but you’ve struggled to act on it? How often do you notice when your thoughts and actions are out of alignment?… when you become aware, through thoughts and reflections, that you are not truly living in line with your values and what really matters? Journal the moments when you have thought and felt something important deeply stirring within, calling you to action but you have been too afraid to take the necessary steps towards making it happen. What would it look like if your life reflected more action than mere thought, one that felt alive and in motion; moving towards your dreams and feeling more aligned with who you want to become? How do you build the confidence and courage to drive your thoughts into action in a way that speaks of a more real, honest and meaningful existence…?
Insights & Reflections
Symbols & Meaning-Making

Carl Jung once said “…we have no symbolic life, and we are all badly in need of the symbolic life. Only the symbolic life can express the need of the soul – the daily need of the soul, mind you! And because people have no such thing, they can never step out of this mill – this awful, grinding, banal life in which they are ‘nothing but’…”
These words give way to many ponderings and reflections for me, mostly around this notion of the soul and what fills the soul and allows it to be expressed. What is the soul? Is soul even a thing; do we really have a soul? For me, the concept of ‘soul’ is not something that we can definitively define, measure or prove, but rather, it defies logical understanding. It’s something I believe, that is sensed and felt intuitively and this requires deep presence and attunement to self and the world around us. I wonder if ‘soul’ is connected to that part of self that makes us feel uniquely human, how we relate or feel connected to the natural and human world, and the reason for our place and drive to live within that world. And that, all comes down, I think, to presence and meaning. How one finds or creates a sense of meaning; the feelings we experience within ourselves that fill us up, inspires reflection, wonder and awe, that stirs and moves us deeply – emotionally – that drives us forward, brings us a sense of hope, feeds our passion and desire and fosters connection with other humans,… this to me is soul. Hence, meaningfulness feels intrinsically linked to this notion of the soul.
So if meaning is an important way to express the need of the soul, how then, do we create or access meaning?
This is where symbols and symbolism come into play. So what is symbolism and where do we find it?
Put simply, symbols or symbolism is about representation. The idea that things represent other things. For example, the colour red is not just a colour but represents something more than the colour itself. That is, it has meaning that we attribute to it beyond just colour, such as passion, energy, anger or love. Symbols can be found in many areas of our lives from our dreams, objects found or acquired, religious and other spiritual beliefs and rituals, to the myriad of road and other signs that direct our day-to-day functioning. Some of the most profound symbolism can been seen and accessed through the visual arts; fine art, expressive arts, dance and cinema. Many symbols and their meanings are universal. But perhaps, it is the symbols and meaning we create for ourselves from things, that has the greatest value and power in how it expresses and feeds the need of the soul.
I wonder if we take this for granted, not ever really being present to the feelings that are elicited when we are experiencing meaningful moments, where we are subliminally responding to something that feels symbolic or meaningful deep within us. The arts have a particular way of eliciting and accessing meaning. We all feel it when we stand in front of great artwork or watch the credits rolls after watching a confronting or moving film. Art and music just seem to elicit and stir such deeply felt emotion be it joyful, inspiring, empowering, contemplative, sad or confronting. When this happens, is this symbolism expressing the need of the soul playing out?
Whenever we feel lifted and energised by something beautiful, amazing or poignant, whether man-made or of the natural world; a piece of music, a rare discovery, a spectacular mark at the footy, a beautifully crafted piece of furniture or garment, an exquisite flower or bird, a wild animal closely crossing our path, or a magnificent sunset, we feel something quite specific. Each of these things can create within us a sense of wonder, excitement, curiosity, joy and awe. Those Ooohh! Wow! Awwwwe! Aaahh! moments that leave us feeling truly alive. They speak to meaning and within the layers of that meaning, you will often find something about the moment that feels symbolic of something we can’t quite articulate.
Art Therapy is built around the idea of art, creative expression and representation as meaning-making. You can draw on these soul lifting moments as inspiration for expression and creative representation, and equally representing and expressing creatively can open up portals that allow you to access and express the subliminal needs of the soul. Either way, finding ways to notice and harness creativity and symbolism can drive us to step out from the “grinding mill of banal life” towards seeking and creating greater meaning in our day-to-day lives. I draw on the use of symbolism in my daily life all the time and represent it in many ways, from using symbolic cards for journaling and reflection, to wearing my favourite soft, pink merino poncho to envelop me when I know I am facing a challenging day. I also have a tree at home adorned with ornaments and ribbons that my husband and I decorated after losing our baby daughter. Hanging the ribbons and ornaments is a sacred ritual and symbolises for me, a sense of hope and connection with my daughter. Immersing myself in, and connecting with nature is also an important part of my day-to-day symbolic and soulful life. Being in nature fills and energises me but more importantly, it slows me down, and when I slow down, I am more present and I notice things I wouldn’t see if I was racing along in the crazy and banal existence we can so often become slave to. It is the slowing down, the presence, the noticing, the curiosity, and in turn, nature revealing surprises of wonder and awe and the feeling of being connected to something greater, that feels symbolic and meaningful.




The Value of Keeping a Journal
I have found keeping a creative journal a really valuable tool for reflection and for ongoing self-exploration and processing work. I always encourage those I am companioning through therapy to keep a journal, and to find a book that feels special and honours your process – not just an ordinary exercise book or scrap paper. But rather, find a beautiful hard cover book, a visual journal or sketchbook, create an ‘altered book’, scrapbook or make your own journal with recycled and textured paper and handmade binding.
However you choose to reflect, documenting your thought and feeling process can be incredibly powerful, insightful, dynamic and a deeply meaningful way of supporting your process of self-understanding, personal development and transformation. A journal acts as a container, a holder of your story, a book or secrets, or a book of chapters, that reflect moments in time, experiences, feeling and emotion states and many other aspects of your process. It provides a sense of history, especially by dating your entries, as well as a sense of wonder and inspiration captured and held sacredly within its pages.
When we invest something of ourselves into the holding space, container or book that is our journal, we invariably place a level of value and reverence to it, thereby increasing the value we place on our inner world of experience, how we express it, nurture it and relate to it. So, make your journal feel special, inviting, curious, creative and interesting. Even just having a tactile or beautiful cover can make it feel important and something that gives you a sense of pleasure and genuine desire to connect and engage with it. Being open to a creative and multi-modal journal also takes away the element of it feeling like work. Sometimes, a journal that is strictly for writing your reflections, thoughts and cognitive process can feel laborious, effortful and tiring to have to commit to. Take the pressure off….write in it only when you feel moved to, make it creative and non-linear, fun and interactive. Put in pictures that inspire you, song lyrics that move and uplift, quotes that motivate, poems, drawings and photos of powerful memories. Document your sleeping dreams as well as your waking dreams, your hopes and aspirations. Make lists of things to achieve and the goals you wish to set, notes to self, plans, creative ideas, feelings, emotions AS WELL as your thoughts. And don’t be afraid to read back over your journal. The re-reading of your entries is an important part of the reflexive process and enables you to see where you’ve been, and how things are shifting and moving. It enables you to track your progress, how you are growing and the areas that still require work. Let your journal take you on an exciting and inspiring journey….there is perhaps, no journey of greater importance than the journey into, and of, the ‘Self’, and your journey can be whatever you want it to be…
Battling the Dragon
Fighting for ourselves and finding our voice can be hard, especially in the face of entrenched and powerful patterns and shadow parts of ourselves that work to keep us stuck. This can be especially compounded for those who have experienced great hardship, through trauma, adversity and suffering. But when we do start to reclaim our voice and our sense of self; when we are able to speak up, be honest, express our needs confidently and learn to say no, when we start to shift long held patterns and ‘ways of being’ that no longer serve us, we discover a power within ourselves that is palpable, exciting and liberating.
It pushes us forward to bravely walk the path towards a life in line with our values and a life that feels honest, joyful, empowered, purposeful, meaningful and whole. A life that is reflective of what truly matters to us. It inspires us to keep walking and climbing despite the hardship, adversity and obstacles. When the light of our genuine and powerful Self shines, we transform in extraordinary ways and we start to not only feel, but truly believe, that the life we are seeking, the path we want to follow, is alive with hope and possibilities.
The Importance of Values
Do you ever reflect on your values? Are you aware and clear of what your values are?
I think these are important questions to ask ourselves as our values are the standards and principles that guide and help us navigate life – socially, morally, ethically and spiritually, and by spiritually, I refer to the core, essence and spirit of ourselves; our inner Being.
Values influence how we treat people and how, in turn, we want them to treat, and behave towards us. Values speak to want is important to us; what truly matters. They are embedded in our attitudes and belief systems and reflect who we are and how we experience the world and how we want to be perceived and understood in relationship to the world of other. Metaphorically, I like to think of values as a lighthouse, our truth and guide that helps us navigate the world, especially through the dark and stormy times; times when we can be out of kilter, off track and struggling to make good choices and decisions. Times when we are clouded by negativity, grief and powerful emotions such as resentment, anger or jealousy that prevent us from seeing things with clarity.
Knowing what our values are is important in grounding us or reeling us back in when we lose sight of what matters. When we struggle to make decisions that are right for us and those we love, when we lose our way and feel lost in the patterns that are not serving us, when feelings of shame and unworthiness, or the craziness of social pressure, influence and manipulation take hold and we start to lose our sense of who we are – our sense of Self. When we are not clear in our values or we find ourselves not living in line with them, that’s when we find ourselves experiencing deep inner conflict which can manifest in behaviours that compromise ourselves; behaviours that are at best unconstructive and at worst, greatly destructive.
When our values are in conflict we feel crap about ourselves. We may feel angry, resentful, depressed, lost, overwhelmed, dissatisfied, unfulfilled, lacking in purpose and feeling a sense of meaninglessness in our lives. Deep inner conflict can, in turn, result in seeking to lessen the discomfort and conflict by drawing on behaviours and patterns that don’t serve us. Instead, they work to increase the conflict by causing us to act out of integrity or out of line with our values even more. And so the cycle keeps going.
Bringing our behaviour, beliefs and values into congruence is vital to developing a healthy and strong sense of self-worth and self-esteem; a strong and healthy sense of who we are as ‘Self’. It starts with understanding our values and then exploring the conflicts that may be causing our behaviour to be incongruent with our values. This is where therapy can be useful. When we start to explore our values, we start to understand more about ourselves and what is important to us. Self-exploration and discovery helps us in turn, develop insight and awareness. Without awareness, it’s hard to change behaviours and successfully work through and address the conflicts and problems that plague us. Looking at ourselves and addressing our struggle involves a level of vulnerability and, being vulnerable requires courage. Delving into the shadow parts of ourselves isn’t easy but the rewards are great when we see how much less stressed we feel as the heaviness of our conflicts and overpowering emotions start to shift and lift. And, when we feel more empowered over ourselves and our lives, perhaps the greatest reward is living a life that feels more liberated, authentic and meaningful.
The Power of Metaphor
The use of metaphor in therapy and in one’s own personal explorations, ponderings and reflections can be both useful and powerful in terms of making meaning and sense of our experiences. Metaphor can provide clarity and identify hidden similarities, patterns and meanings between two different ideas. Metaphor and archetypal patterns go hand in hand as it’s argued that archetyapal content expresses itself first and foremost, in metaphors. Consider the notion of the knight reflected above in my video piece. The knight achetype slaying the dragon directly relates to the metaphoric idea of fighting our battles – the Dragon representing those battles – both the personal battles within ourselves and our patterned ways of being and our inter-relational battles and conflicts with others.
For people who find it hard to effectively express and communicate their feelings and emotions, metaphor is a very handy and effective way to find a language and meaning for emotional experiences that are hard to express and put into words. Some common expressions that many of us naturally draw on as metaphor include; the ‘fire raging in the stomach’ to express anger or the notion of ‘climbing up the mountain’ to express a feeling of an insurmountable problem. These feeling or emotion metaphors come into greatest effect when they can then be used to explore and deepen one’s experiences in order to better access the unconscious content, open up conversation and ultimately make sense of, or find meaning in the experience. Art, creative expression, embodied ‘felt sense’ and ritual work are powerful modalities for better accessing and processing the content that is trying to be understood by a metaphor or metaphoric language.
On the Wonder of Light as Meaningfulness…
‘Komorebi’ is a Japanese word used to describe the experience of seeing sunlight filtering through the trees. How beautiful to have a unique word to describe this phenomenon. There is something about light, and the play of light, that draws our attention and grounds us in the present moment. Sunset and sunrise, rainbows, rays of light filtering and glistening through the leaves of trees, and the light of the sun sparkling on the surface of water like diamonds. These are all examples of the phenomenon of light reflection and refraction, giving off a wonderful sense of the transcendent, celestial and magical. Another source of light reflection that fascinates me, is watching the sunlight reflecting shadows from outside foliage onto internal walls and surfaces, that appear to move and dance.
The play of light is one of those experiences that can feel symbolic and meaningful, igniting a sense of the magical, ethereal and spiritual. Have you ever stepped into a hazy shower of sunshine and noticed particles of dust, light motes or tiny insects suddenly become visible? Illumination from the shaft of light, allows us to see what’s hidden. I find there’s something about illuminating the hidden that speaks of other realms and worlds bringing us in touch with our imagination but also our sense of spirit or soul.
The presence of a spectacular and awe-inspiring display of light reflection or refraction, be it, a double rainbow appearing against a grey sky or the distinct rays of light streaming down to the ground as if from a heavenly place, draws us closely and connects us to the natural and spiritual world, bringing peace, solace and a sense of “oneness” with nature. Equally, the capacity to pause and notice light in its various forms can offer joyful moments and brings us into the present moment of human ‘being’. When we pause and acknowledge these simple yet profound gifts of nature, we are filled with a child-like wonder, imagination, curiosity and awe – something that is so easily missed, or dismissed, in the hustle and bustle of our busy, rushed, and overstimulated lives. Moments of peace, awe and wonder invite presence and connection, not only with nature but also with ourselves. It fills that place within us we refer to as ‘soul’, with a tonic, that in turn, replenishes, re-energises and restores us physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
Take a few moments to step away from your work or screens and go outside. See of you can notice moments of light reflection or refraction. Be present to how you feel in the moment. Journal what it stirs for you.
and discovery helps us in turn, develop insight and awareness. Without awareness, it’s hard to change behaviours and successfully work through and address the conflicts and problems that plague us. Looking at ourselves and addressing our struggle involves a level of vulnerability and, being vulnerable requires courage. Delving into the shadow parts of ourselves isn’t easy but the rewards are great when we see how much less stressed we feel as the heaviness of our conflicts and overpowering emotions start to shift and lift. And, when we feel more empowered over ourselves and our lives, perhaps the greatest reward is living a life that feels more liberated, authentic and meaningful.

